Career Coach Kyle Elliott Breaks Down How to Love Yourself—and Love Your Work

From the first time I spoke with Kyle, I knew he was brilliantly living his calling. 

Kyle is clear in his purpose, he uplifts others in the process and he stays absolutely true to who he is in everything he does. 

Of the many attributes I appreciate in Kyle (and there are many); one that stands out is his conviction to use his own pain to shine light on the joys found in living authentically. 

He does not ask from others work he does not himself practice or has not done himself. 

No stranger to the deep work involved in self love, compassion and trust, Kyle is a role model to me and to an unheard of number of folx working to belong first and foremost to themselves so they can be whole in community; including the workplace. 


Anne Hilb: Kyle, tell us about yourself as a person and your current work.

Kyle Elliott: I’m a career and life coach. In a nutshell, I help people find jobs they LOVE (or at least tolerate). I also help them find happiness.

I work with clients to see inside themselves, slice through their limiting beliefs, and own their fabulousness. Together, we craft plans to help them achieve what seems impossible. That could be landing a new job, securing a big promotion, starting their own coaching business—you name it.

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Career coach Kyle Elliott is in the business of building self-love, self-worth and self-esteem.

AH: What does self-love look like to you?

KE: Self-love is constantly evolving. And, it’s integral to my work and my life.

As a coach, it is critical that I take care of and love myself. This ensures I have enough energy, capacity, and love to help others.

My self-love is a careful concoction of family and friends, coaching and therapy, walking and meditating, constant reflection and remixing.

Kyle’s sense of his own self-worth gives him the energy to coach others to do the same.

AH: How has loving yourself led to the unexpected?

KE: One of the most unexpected outcomes of loving myself has been new clients. As a result of loving myself — and sharing the new-found confidence associated with that self-love — I have landed more clients than I could have ever imagined. As a society, we struggle with self-love and confidence. Prospective clients appreciate my conversations about mental health, therapy, and love.

“As a society, we struggle with self-love and confidence,” Elliott writes. “Prospective clients appreciate my conversations about mental health, therapy, and love.”

AH: What is a fear you have overcome?

KE: Rejection is one of the fears I am working to address. While I wouldn’t say I have completely overcome rejection, my relationship with rejection has improved significantly over the last few years. Participating in Jia Jing’s 100 days of rejection challenge has helped me become more comfortable with rejection — both in work and in life. I have learned to lean into rejection — and realized I get rejected far less often than I expected!

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“Rejection was my curse, was my boogeyman. It has bothered me my whole life because I was running away from it. Then I started embracing it. I turned that into the biggest gift in my life,” says Jia Jiang in his Uber-popular Ted Talk, “What I Learned From 100 Days of Rejection.”

AH: Why is self-love so hard to practice —and so easy to overlook?

KE: We often think of brunch and yoga and Netflix when we think of self-care and self-love. Sure, these activities are tasty and fun and relaxing, but they just scratch the surface of what our souls crave. Self-care and self-love must dive deeper into our heart and body if we want to see true, lasting change and results. We have to ask the difficult questions:

How am I getting in my own way?

What do I really need right now?

What would it look like to truly love myself?

The list goes on.

AH: What are some ways business leaders can weave self-care into their workday for their employees?

KE: You will rarely hear me say, “have to,” but business leaders have to practice what they preach. Your organization cannot declare a commitment to self-care yet have an executive team that works 60+-hour weeks and never takes vacations.

You have two choices: Stop announcing your commitment to self-care or create systems that prioritize self-care. Begin by acknowledging what’s happening in your organization, practicing what you preach, assigning your teams with reasonable workloads, and creating systems to prevent burnout.

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