The more I coach folks on difficult conversations, the more I am finding them asking for some kind of framework; a step by step or a worksheet they can turn to when they want to confront that difficult person at work or have that talk they’ve been putting off with their partner or not-so-dearest friend.

To this, I offer the following:

Self love is required to fulfill our calling. 

Think about Robin Williams, Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, Ernest Hemingway… Some may argue their callings were fulfilled; others may wonder what else might have been. 

Insecurity and self-doubt may not be as final as death (thank goodness!), but they still rob the world of your riches.  

It seems at first a stretch to consider the business case for self love; however, from improved employee confidence to healthy boundary-setting: Self-love is actually a business imperative. 

This interview appeared on SparkVision's High Achieving Millennial series. Anne Hilb is the Founder, Lead Consultant of Graymake Consulting, LLC. She walks alongside organizational leaders as they work to build stronger teams, healthier cultures, and thriving organizations.